One of my regularly read blogs, Oh My Stinking Heck, and part of why I started blogging about being a parent, husband, and handyman has a great article on the power of words. How much what we say truly impacts those around us.

I was particularly intrigued by the quote from a Psychology Today article, Words That Wound.

“…communication skills in and of themselves don’t make or break a marriage, and men’s skills don’t seem to matter much at all. What’s important is how women use their skills, and whether their relationship is calm or conflict-ridden.”

Although the article doesn’t mention it, I would wager that this is probably true, to some extent, in any relationship: friend, family, coworker. And I’m nearly certain that it is true with children. I know that I still remember the few cruel words I ever heard from my four parents much more distinctly than any of the many, many loving ones.

Oh My Stinking Heck calls for readers to post words of encouragement to their spouses, partners, etc. And since me and the Mrs. celebrated our fifth anniversary this past Saturday, I thought I would:

Megan,

It has been a very crazy and at times stressful five years, but I have survived it all because of you. In the most frightening of moments, harrowing of days, and withering weeks, you have been my partner, my loving wife, patient confidant, and most trusted friend. And in the happiest moments of joy, blissful Sundays, and calm months of peace, you were the source and center of that peace. I have never known such loyalty and love as you show me every day.

I am a better man because of you. Not that you shaped or molded me, but because you gave me courage and cheered me on as I shaped and molded myself. You were unafraid of strange new worlds that we encountered together, and you praised my skills and value to anyone that would listen. Your pride in me became my self-confidence. Your understanding helped me forgive my mistakes. And your 10 month ordeal made me a proud papa.

I am a father only because of you. You brought our wonderful son into this world, at times at your own peril. You step in, when I must tag out. You stand firm when I want to give in. And you back me 100% when I put my foot down. I cannot imagine the world without you and our son, and am thankful every day that I have you.

I love you all the way up to the moon…

…and back.

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